There is no hope for me. The world hates me. No one ever talks to me.
Do we obsess over things that don’t go right in our life? Does it matter if no one cares about whether something bad happened to us? This is the real situation. People just don’t care a great deal when we’re sad or angry or whatever else. There are two dominant forces in the universe, the Chinese call them yin and yang. What they really stand for, however, is quite deep. Every man has both yin and yang aspects, or light and darkness, or masculine and feminine.
The way that people perceive you depends significantly on which of these two sides of the coin you default to as your operating setting in today’s world. The equation has been flipped upside down, and there are a lot of men who lean towards operating from a feminine position rather than a masculine one. Other people, and our reality, are both very honest and very brutal. We don’t get lied to by reality. Reality does not lie to us. Many men in powerful positions lie to us and attempt to mold our reality, but true reality doesn’t actually lie to us. When you introduce reality with something, or poke it, you will always get a reaction.
A man’s actions may be a form of poking reality, whether he realizes it or not. There are times when you will like your reaction, and times when you won’t like your behavior. When you go out into the world and behave in a certain way or act on reality, reality will give you a consequence. If you’re getting the wrong results, you must change your approach. It doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you, in general, if you’re encountering people who don’t like you. However, there are those of you who will not be liked by most people you meet. That’s just reality.
Just because you’re not getting the results you want doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Poking reality with the wrong behavior simply means you’re not getting the results you want. Our behaviors have the greatest impact on reality and on other people, and they can be either yin or yang, masculine or feminine. So many men are going out and presenting the world with feminine behaviors, and they can’t figure out why they seem to be completely invisible to women.
A man whining is one of the most feminine activities a man can perform. It is not that men in the past were uncomfortable discussing their problems, rather, most people were not interested in listening. It doesn’t matter if your job sucks and your boss was horrible to you today, most people just don’t care. Complaining is one of a myriad of feminine activities that men unwittingly poke reality with. If you don’t poke reality with the right behaviors, you won’t get the results you desire.
Many men in today’s society are invisible to women because they do not understand both sides of the coin. They do not understand masculine and feminine, and therefore they are unable to stop being invisible unless they stop leaning towards the feminine side of their coin, unless they are looking for women who are extremely masculine. Feminine traits include sweetness, sensitivity, and passive emotion. Be aware of how you are presenting yourself to the world. If you are showing these traits you are showing your feminine side.
Every man has these traits to some degree, and they are not inherently bad. When you lean more towards the feminine and away from the masculine, you get the results that most of you are not hoping for – no matter why you are feeling a bit more emotional today than you usually do, girls do not care why you seem more like their little sister than a man they could desire. All girls know, and all reality knows, is what you present to it.
If you’re not getting the attention of women, examine your behavior around them. Are you presenting yourself in a more feminine or more masculine way? Is your energy more feminine or more masculine in the end? In almost every scenario, masculine energy creates attraction better than feminine energy. If you’re always whining, always being passive, always being overly sensitive, and always complaining, don’t be shocked if real life doesn’t deliver for you, and don’t be surprised if you’re invisible to most girls.
